Good probing questions dating
I didn’t see anything saying we couldn’t talk during the last four minutes of eye-contact so I asked him about dogs while we both tried to not break.Considering we’d just sat through two and a half hours of probing questions, it wasn’t as hard as I thought, but it was still awkward AF.
I feel constantly on edge that no one will ever love me, but also egotistical enough that I truly think no one is good enough for me.I enjoyed talking, and having a script made me feel like I could relax without having to make any stupid heavy-handed flirty small talk.But the same time, if I was so stoked on not having to flirt, wasn’t that a red flag?I’m not sure the small talk made things easier, since we both knew whatever superficial dumb questions I lobbed at him about dogs were just there to distract the both of us.It’s like, I’m not actually going to deep-dive into Go T theories with the nurse who draws my blood, but I’ll word-vomit some bullshit just to not see a needle.We quickly realized it was fairest to alternate who would answer first.
This was key because as I found out very quickly, it is super easy to feel self-conscious of your answer or worried you answered “incorrectly” after hearing another, much more eloquent response.
The famed ‘36 Questions to Fall in Love’ gained popularity in a viral NYTimes story, wherein two strangers ask each other a set of increasingly intimate questions, and by answering them, you fall in love.
The questions are supposed to provoke deep thought and give your date background info on why you are the way you are and blah blah blah.
He spoke often about his family, and I couldn’t relate.
If you aren’t super close with your family, it’s always awkward when other people are.
The same sexless reason I had enjoyed doing the questions also underlined the fact that I didn’t really feel a ton of physical chemistry.