Online dating tips for black men
The scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25The problem..the solution: We get it.
There’s obviously a reason she didn’t think it would work out, so why keep trying to pursue someone who is clearly not interested in you? However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
One girl we spoke to told a story about a guy who sent her a hilarious quote from the movie she had mentioned in her profile.
Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.
But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.
By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.
The site was founded with the idea that Black singles looking for dating opportunities should have a place that makes the search for love easier.